Most people will agree that our children will face entirely different circumstances than we did growing up. Cyberbullying is a term that didn’t even exist when I was in school.
Sometimes, I feel like I stick out like a sore thumb when I try to discipline my children and train them in the same way that I was raised. We live in a self-absorbed, self-promotional society where we are constantly being taught to look out for ourselves by what and who is popular.
I find it more and more important to imprint my personal values into the minds of my children. I expect the same principles that brought me to success and happiness, will help them find their way in difficult times.
These principles are:
- Faith: Believing that anything is possible with God on your side.
- Perseverance: The Internal Decision to Never Give Up.
- Love: My commitment to treat others with kindness and respect.
Raising children is hard work no doubt, but there are some things that we, as parents, cannot give up on, and that is our commitment to train our children, no matter what.
Teach Your Children to Share
Sharing is the most basic form of caring for others. It’s one of the first social skills that children learn and often the hardest skill to teach.
I would’ve thought that my oldest son would be great at sharing with two younger siblings. Or at least the youngest :-) However, sharing is still a challenge - no matter the age, no matter the birth order.
So, why is sharing important? Because sharing is giving. It’s taking something that belongs to you or that you have the rights to, and lending that same opportunity, joy or pleasure to some one else.
Sharing, in other words, is the most basic form of love.
Have your children take turns playing with a toy or to split their snacks with others. If they are playing a game, show them how to let others have fun and enjoy themselves. Teach your children to take pleasure in the happiness of others and not just their own joy.
Growing up, my mother never let us put ourselves before others. If another child wanted a toy we were playing with, she was quick to give it to the other child.
I try to implement the same principle of “preferring your brother” with my children.
Teach Your Children to be Helpers
Growing up my mom always had my sister and I cleaning, filing papers, doing laundry, reading her Sunday School lesson or some other form of helping.
I am grateful to this day that she instilled the principle of hard work and being supportive into us at a young age.
Teaching your children to chip in with chores and simple tasks gives them a sense of self-love as well as instills the value of being a team player into them.
Teaching Your Children By Example
Wherever I go, whatever I’m doing, I always notice my daughter watching me intently. She never fails to surprise me with cute little phrases like, “Awwww, that’s so cute!” Then, I realize how much she is watching my every move.
Children are usually a direct reflection of their parents. Understand that the way you behave will be mimicked by your children.
- Try to avoid arguing or yelling while your children are around.
- Show integrity even in the smallest of matters.
- Show kindness and love towards others.
God has given you the tools, aptitude and wisdom that you need to raise your children in love. The ultimate tool that will never fail you when it comes to parenting – is prayer. God has the answers you need at every stage of parenthood. He has answers that you wouldn’t even imagine after worrying all night long. Go to God in prayer for strategy and wisdom to lead and love your children.
Please share any additional tips you have for teaching your children to love in the comment box! I would love to hear from you!!!